Why you might already know your soul mate

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Have you ever thought about the possibility that your soul mate is someone who is already in your life? Think about all the dates you go on and new people you meet, but still you have not met the one who feels like the perfect match. This question has been going through my head for a while now. Over and over I hear people say “Oh, you’ll meet someone soon. The guy you are meant to be with is somewhere out there in the world, you just haven’t met him yet.”

But maybe I have. Maybe my perfect match is someone I have already met but have not fully explored the possibility of love with. Maybe they have a girlfriend or we met at a bad time.

I have thought about this before, but only when a girlfriend of mine asked me the same question did I began to realize I was not the only one pondering this idea. It could be that the person you are meant to have a lasting and meaningful relationship with is someone you don’t talk to very often, or it could be someone you have not spoken to in a while.

So many of us are busy looking around, fantasizing about someone we haven’t met yet, waiting for Mr. Perfect to come along and sweep us off our feet. We go to nightclubs, bars, bookstores and outings with our friends in hopes of meeting that special someone.

But what if that person is someone you don’t have to explain yourself to? Someone who already understands your struggle? Maybe they were there to lend a hand when you hit rock bottom but you called them “just a friend”.

I suggest exploring your options with people already in your life. It could be someone you casually met and haven’t stayed in contact with. Maybe it’s time to reach out to that person and see what they are up to.

I do not suggest trying to rekindle a relationship from the past or get back with your ex.  I also don’t suggest going on Facebook and adding everyone you went to high school with or start following random people on Instagram. I’m just suggesting you be open to people who you attract in your realm.

You may not realize how much you have in common with a person you pass by every day. You may have written someone off because of one reason or another, but I suggest you give them a chance. Remember that quote, “You never know unless you try.”? Well, that applies to this.

I challenge you, for 30 days, to stop looking on dating websites, in bars and clubs or anywhere else for the perfect match. Start looking at the people already in your life. You may be surprised who comes out of the woodwork.

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Jennifer McDougall is a freelance writer, student of life and lover of spontaneous adventure. She grew up in a small town in Georgia but has lived in Southern California for the past 14 years. When she is not writing about some wild experience or creative insight, she can be found at the beach or watching "Breakfast at Tiffany's" for the bazillionth time. Having gone through the relationship ringer, she is happy to share some great advice with the world. Follow along on her journey through Twitter: @lifeofpolly and Instagram: lifeof_polly