Over the course of my life I have come to the conclusion that forgiveness is everything. Keeping things bottled up and holding grudges is not healthy–it creates everlasting pain and hurt.
Why should you forgive? Well…
1. Forgiving is a weight off your shoulders and conscience
2. You look like the bigger person
3. Forgiving helps you mature
4. Forgiving leads you to better karma
5. Tomorrow is never promised: would you rather forgive now, or feel guilty for never again having the chance to?
Look at it this way: if whomever wronged you is someone cherished and dear to you, find things they have done right and focus on those–not the things they have done wrong. Having the courage to forgive allows you to breathe. You will be able to move on with a clear conscience.
If you are the one in the wrong, you need to not only ask for forgiveness, but forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself frees you from burdens. You have to look at what you did, fix it, rid yourself of it, and mend.
Some of us find it easy while some of us find it hard to find the courage to forgive. Some say that when you love someone, whether this person is a partner or it is a friend, forgiveness comes easily. Personally, I believe it is harder to forgive someone I love and care about, because I then question their love and appreciation for me. But that is something I have to look past, and if you share my views, then you do too. Look past it and look towards the future, not in the rear view mirror.
When you find it in your heart and mind to forgive, you will then realize you embody the qualities of a strong person, because it takes bravery to let someone know you’re okay; you are letting go of the damage.
Nobody said you have to forget what happened, but forgiving makes the mending process a lot easier. In the words of Bill Cosby, “Let go of what’s bitter, and move on.”
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